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T O P I C R E V I E Wboboxoxomvinitaheey i dont know if i am goin to be of much help technically but look at it this way....chemistry although as imp as it seems...is actually made up....see in the lab we mix chemicals...and then all strats sizzling...same way....u have to build it up...i mean u know follow wat he likes....do it....dress sexy...act sexy!!!after all he is a man...he's bound to fall besides i think chemistry brings u together but the connection it makes is wat keeps u together....so good luck!!!RandallWelcome! ------------------"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca ClarksthenriYou can be his friend for the rest of his life and accept that. If he can accept that, it's good. But if there is no chemistry than you can't offer more, or hang your hopes on him.After all, it came from the horses mouth, at least he was honest with you.That feeling you have is a protective one, and now that he knows how you feel, give him time. But you move much more quickly than him, he's a Pisces and they are protective of their thoughts.Take Care,NatashaTaurusboboxoxomsg purple_scorpDear BB - you wrote:"it's difficult to keep a distance... both of us are holding on to each other, though i can tell he is trying to pull away a bit now. I dont know why he gives so much if there is no chemistry..."I may be able to shed some light on this for you, as I'm right now, on the other end of the "no chemistry" deal. He is such a nice guy and my head tells me that I should feel something more for him but he doesn't make my heart flutter.So for ages, I've been talking myself out of going any further with him (we've been on six dates) and now I might just be confused.Why do I hang around? Well, it's because he has so many qualities that I admire, I'm hoping the chemistry kicks in. However, I have only known him a few months, not years like you. It has happened once before for me where I grew to love somebody whom I was not attracted to in the first instance.I would also like to say, I'm a similar age to you. I think the lesson for me is that because I wasn't physically attracted to him I was quick to discount him. Boy, that sucks big time because I would hate for someone to discount me on looks alone. So maybe he's mirroring a shadow side of myself.Anyhow, I really enjoy his company and always have fun and a lot of things to talk about.I'm just hanging back to see where things go. Don't give up faith in your potential relationship.....you may just need to grow on him first.with lovepurple_scorpboboxoxoThanks very much, purple_scorp. deleriousOnly been really dating since July? I'd say give it some time. You're at the point in the relationship where things start getting heavy, and any fears of commitment or intimacy start to surface. At that stage it's very common for one or the other to start to back off, sometimes the fear makes up it's own excuses!!Be patient, love takes time, and if you really are soulmates nothing will keep you apart for long. If not you're better off, who wants to be stuck in something that doesn't feel right?Be grateful for the friendship and the good times. But as far as chemistry goes, is there any affection between you? Sometimes small sparks take time to grow? (is there a small spark?) I seem to think that if the relationship is right, the chemistry follows.My ex and I had the most incredible chemistry ever, but it went up in a cloud of smoke when we started not getting along.....I'll be hoping for you, lord knows we all need love in our lives..Does make me feel better about having no love interest now, the is he or isn't hes are killers! All the while you sit there feeling like judgement is being passed.Good Luck! boboxoxomdeleriousGlad if I could help - but you didn't answer if there was any spark of affection there? that would be an indicator.... holding hands? little touches? I'm an Aries too, we just hate to wait. The impatience is a blessing and a curse. All the analyzing - any libra in your chart?For your happiness, it all boils down to finding your center, getting the love you need from within yourself and the others you know love you.....Untill you know you've met your soulmate, putting any man as the emotional center of your life is a big mistake that leads to sleepless nights and heartbreak. I think my constant need is why I haven't met mine. The true joining comes out of strength. If you're that miserable when he's not around look deep inside to see why you don't love yourself enough to be alone, happily. I used to feel incomplete without a man, why I so quickly got into relationships that weren't right for me.That could be scaring him off too. Noone wants the responsibility of being someone's sole source of happiness.... Many guys run for the hills when they feel someone's leaning too hard, Pisces is a hard one to tie down anyways.Just keep doing the things you love best, revel in the satisfaction that brings you, and when you least expect it, you'll look up from your work and there'll be Prince Charming!! (At least that's what this typical Arian keeps trying to tell herself!!!)Remember, love is all around you...... boboxoxomAqualiDunno if itsw any help...my ex pices hubby used to push me away...it took me 4 years to understand that he did so because he loved me and thought I did not want to stay with an older man. Some pices men also seem to have low self esteem about their looks. Another thing is that pices are one of the most patient sign...time alomost does not exist for them and for me as an aquarius and you as an turbo it might be our lesson from these beautiful creatures...good luck, stay in there, give him poems and love, be free and let yourself bloom!26taurusYo, check it: The One http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/001239.html purple_scorpHey BB,you are kind of in a no-win situation. I really feel for you.The thing is, it sounds as if you are trying to control the situation, rather than go with the flow. Yes, that would be an Aries trait (btw, I am Aries moon, Libra Asc - hehehe all that analysing, hey delirious....?)It is true that if you find self-love, you will attract the love of others. But that doesn't help you with the way that you are feeling now.You know, today I resolved that perhaps I'm not supposed to have a SO in my life. It's because I don't think I've found the "one" (interesting post, 26Taurus) and I'm not prepared to compromise on anything less.I just have to have the faith in the Universe that I am exactly where I am meant to be.Maybe BB, there's a reason why your romantic relationship is being delayed.You know, I thought I met the "one" but he was sleeping and didn't recognise me. then I read this book: "Hot Chocolate for the Lover's Soul - 101 True Stories of Soul Mates" by Arielle Ford. It gave me inspiration to carry on, knowing that love will find me, when the time is right. Things don't always work out the way we think they will. There are numerous stories in this book where friends, like yourself, don't get together romantically at first. One is simply not ready. Then, something happens and everything falls into place.I wish you peace and courage in working through this seemingly hopeless and frustrating period of your life.with lovepurple_scorpboboxoxom
------------------"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark
After all, it came from the horses mouth, at least he was honest with you.
That feeling you have is a protective one, and now that he knows how you feel, give him time. But you move much more quickly than him, he's a Pisces and they are protective of their thoughts.
Take Care,NatashaTaurus
"it's difficult to keep a distance... both of us are holding on to each other, though i can tell he is trying to pull away a bit now. I dont know why he gives so much if there is no chemistry..."
I may be able to shed some light on this for you, as I'm right now, on the other end of the "no chemistry" deal. He is such a nice guy and my head tells me that I should feel something more for him but he doesn't make my heart flutter.
So for ages, I've been talking myself out of going any further with him (we've been on six dates) and now I might just be confused.
Why do I hang around? Well, it's because he has so many qualities that I admire, I'm hoping the chemistry kicks in. However, I have only known him a few months, not years like you. It has happened once before for me where I grew to love somebody whom I was not attracted to in the first instance.
I would also like to say, I'm a similar age to you. I think the lesson for me is that because I wasn't physically attracted to him I was quick to discount him. Boy, that sucks big time because I would hate for someone to discount me on looks alone. So maybe he's mirroring a shadow side of myself.
Anyhow, I really enjoy his company and always have fun and a lot of things to talk about.
I'm just hanging back to see where things go. Don't give up faith in your potential relationship.....you may just need to grow on him first.
with love
purple_scorp
Be patient, love takes time, and if you really are soulmates nothing will keep you apart for long. If not you're better off, who wants to be stuck in something that doesn't feel right?
Be grateful for the friendship and the good times. But as far as chemistry goes, is there any affection between you? Sometimes small sparks take time to grow? (is there a small spark?) I seem to think that if the relationship is right, the chemistry follows.
My ex and I had the most incredible chemistry ever, but it went up in a cloud of smoke when we started not getting along.....
I'll be hoping for you, lord knows we all need love in our lives..
Does make me feel better about having no love interest now, the is he or isn't hes are killers! All the while you sit there feeling like judgement is being passed.
Good Luck!
I'm an Aries too, we just hate to wait. The impatience is a blessing and a curse. All the analyzing - any libra in your chart?
For your happiness, it all boils down to finding your center, getting the love you need from within yourself and the others you know love you.....
Untill you know you've met your soulmate, putting any man as the emotional center of your life is a big mistake that leads to sleepless nights and heartbreak.
I think my constant need is why I haven't met mine. The true joining comes out of strength. If you're that miserable when he's not around look deep inside to see why you don't love yourself enough to be alone, happily. I used to feel incomplete without a man, why I so quickly got into relationships that weren't right for me.
That could be scaring him off too. Noone wants the responsibility of being someone's sole source of happiness.... Many guys run for the hills when they feel someone's leaning too hard, Pisces is a hard one to tie down anyways.
Just keep doing the things you love best, revel in the satisfaction that brings you, and when you least expect it, you'll look up from your work and there'll be Prince Charming!! (At least that's what this typical Arian keeps trying to tell herself!!!)
Remember, love is all around you......
good luck, stay in there, give him poems and love, be free and let yourself bloom!
The One http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/001239.html
you are kind of in a no-win situation. I really feel for you.
The thing is, it sounds as if you are trying to control the situation, rather than go with the flow. Yes, that would be an Aries trait (btw, I am Aries moon, Libra Asc - hehehe all that analysing, hey delirious....?)
It is true that if you find self-love, you will attract the love of others. But that doesn't help you with the way that you are feeling now.
You know, today I resolved that perhaps I'm not supposed to have a SO in my life. It's because I don't think I've found the "one" (interesting post, 26Taurus) and I'm not prepared to compromise on anything less.
I just have to have the faith in the Universe that I am exactly where I am meant to be.
Maybe BB, there's a reason why your romantic relationship is being delayed.
You know, I thought I met the "one" but he was sleeping and didn't recognise me. then I read this book: "Hot Chocolate for the Lover's Soul - 101 True Stories of Soul Mates" by Arielle Ford. It gave me inspiration to carry on, knowing that love will find me, when the time is right. Things don't always work out the way we think they will. There are numerous stories in this book where friends, like yourself, don't get together romantically at first. One is simply not ready. Then, something happens and everything falls into place.
I wish you peace and courage in working through this seemingly hopeless and frustrating period of your life.
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